Day 4: I choose to "have a mind that is open to everything and attached to nothing" (Tilopa 988-1069)
Happiness and success never depend on an attachment to anything, anyone or any place.
What would happen if tomorrow morning you woke up without your worldly possessions, without your house you worked so hard for, even without your wedding ring? Could you still be happy?
Do you reach for your favourite food or look forward to a holiday because you know you can then be happy?
What if the happiness is not kept in the possessions or in other people and perhaps instead it is a choice we make daily within only ourselves.
Have you noticed when we get upset, disappointed, angry, sad, jealous, frustrated and other of human emotions that it is normally the result of two things; either expectation or attachment. When either of these are breached, we can fall into these emotions.
When we attach meaning to objects, people or situations, we become easily disappointed, angry or sad when things don't go to plan.
Other attachments can limit our relationships with other people or limit our opportunities and experiences. An example of this is when we have an attachment to "being right". When we attach to only the words of one person or group as being right, we have immediately shut the door to so many possibilities and points of view. If we stand back un-attached, we can choose to view all these opinions without the attachment of making them right or wrong.
Some questions to ponder:
Are there any beliefs you have attached to (perhaps those of your parents, or those from your education) which perhaps may not deep down align with your core feelings?
What would be important to you if you were to wake up tomorrow morning without your worldly possessions?
Have you shut the door to other opinions or possibilities by so firmly believing in the words of one person or group of people as being right? Imagine approaching the topic from other points of view (without judgement).