Day 14: Rather than try and fix, I will guide and step aside

Are you someone who wants the best outcome SOOO much for your loved ones, family, friends, random strangers, your community, animals and in fact the whole Earth that given the opportunity to help, you would move mountains to give them as much as love and support as you could?

Have you ever found yourself investing so much of your own energy in trying to "fix" someone that you completely drain yourself?  While trying to provide support, your invisible energy tentacles stretch out and plug in to the other person and and energetically take away all their pain and troubles; often leaving them feeling light from talking with you.

As they skip away, you all of a sudden are struck with an overwhelming feeling of exhaustion, a feeling of being completely flat, negative or you find yourself grumpy and frustrated with inanimate (or animate) objects (but are you actually grumpy and frustrated with yourself?)!

Why???  

Perhaps you are a fixer and/or an empath!  

Lesson number one: Keep your tentacles to yourself!   As tempting as it is to plug in and ease the problems of those around you, we must remember we can drain ourselves of energy if we become invested in the problems.  Just as we can impartially observe our own thoughts, we can also impartially observe the problems of others without investing our energy.

Lesson number two: we cannot "fix" anyone.  We can't take away anyone else's problems, pains, fears, worries as much as we would love to.  All we can do is guide, step aside and just be.