" When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." Wayne Dyer.
Have a look around you. Take in everything that is green. When you think you can remember them all then shut your eyes. With your eyes shut, try to recall everything that is red! It's very difficult especially when we have had our green filter on.
Now imagine that you had a collection of sunglasses with different coloured lenses. Each time you sit down with someone for a conversation you select your coloured glasses. The other person selects others. It means the filter you have applied is different to that of the person you are engaging with. What does this mean? We select our lenses often based on our history, our beliefs, our work, our education and our upbringing.. Of course our lenses differ to those of others. If we translate this to a conversation that you walk away drained or negative, think about what filter you had applied. Imagine this conversation now through a different lens.
So if you are sitting in a group environment with for example 7 other people and each were interviewed about the event that just occurred, there would most likely be 8 different accounts. All would be biased to the lenses worn.
Today I choose to select a different filter and approach each situation with an open mind
(as though I had just dropped down from outer space and had no history or beliefs)!
* Recall an event where you felt angry, disappointed etc with someone.
* Imagine what their past could have been like for them to respond as they did.
* If you had a different past, could you imagine wearing different coloured lenses?