We don't have to do everything! Phew that is written in black and white.....
"To carry each other is not a burden at all, but a kind of privilege." Bono
Why do so many believe we must do absolutely everything? As mums this is often heightened as so many of us step into the role of a martyr where everything is done for everyone else to the detriment of our own health. Perhaps when going from a position of independence to a mum role, some of our self worth can be measured by what we have done especially those things that can be visually measured such as the ironing, washing, cooking etc.. The reward system is set up which continues to fuel the need to do everything; the superwoman scenario.
This is all well and good until we reach burnout, or resentment, or depression.
Our identity is lost not in the fun of doing what we enjoy but doing everything that we possibly can because we can.
But what if we could be more productive, self-loving and more loving to those around us if we started delegating tasks to others or reaching out and asking for help? There is no shame in asking. The worst thing that can happen is someone can say no to which you ask someone else. Often fear blocks us from asking; fear of being unable to financially fund the support, or a sense of guilt that perhaps we feel we need to be doing it ourselves. Like decluttering of material objects, delegating tasks is a mental decluttering of tasks which allows the new to flow in!
It is safe to invest in myself and by investing in myself I am asking for help.
Questions to ponder:
* Are there any areas of your life that you currently feel you could ask for help?
* Do you feel like you are spinning your tyres in the one spot over and over. What is something different that could be done to get out of the boggy marsh? Is there anyone you can think to ask for help?
* Are there other people who have gone through similar experiences to you that you have seen come through who you could ask advice?
* Investment in ourselves is never a waste of time or money.