Each day we are presented with mirrors. The more annoying we find someone or we criticize them (internally or vocally), the more we need to have a little look inside to see what it is that is coming up for us! It is called the mirror theory and when we are observing and analysing the behaviour of others, we are actually discovering ourselves in them.
If we view someone as unkind, look at an area of our lives that we may be unkind either to others or ourselves and find ways to increase compassion and kindness. If it is judgement of others that is irritating us, then have a look to see if there is a way in which we are being judgmental and perhaps there is a need to think about a new way to view people.
Others provide us with the greatest opportunity to work on ourselves. The issues we perceive to belong to someone else are not theirs but our own. When we look at others positively and in light, we are also doing and thinking the same of ourselves. We can hold gratitude to those who we may have perceived previously to be difficult for allowing us to go in and "tidy up"!
* Can you think of someone who makes you prickle?! What is it about them that you are struggling with? Say out loud exactly what your issue with them is. Now replace their name with I. Where is your life is this emotion or feeling going on for you or how could you being doing this to someone else?
* Think of people you admire. The singers and stars you follow and the people you are inspired by. Write down what it is in them that you love. Now remove their name and insert the word I!! This a reflection of the traits that are in you that you are seeing in others.